Recently, after reading the Modesty Survey put on by the Rebelution, I was really convicted about the way I dress. It's easy to rationalize things and say, "Well, this isn't that immodest," or "I can wear another shirt under it or over it and it will be fine." But through this survey, I realized that what I wear does affect guys, and can lead them into wrong thinking very easily. I also realized that I want my outfits to reflect God, not myself, to others. So I have been culling through my wardrobe evaluating my clothes.
That said, I haven't thought much about femininity before this week. I have a ton of skirts (trust me - my closet is mostly filled with skirts!), but I don't wear them very much. I've mostly saved them for church and special occasions. Doing this feminine farmgirl challenge has changed my view on that. I've realized that I can wear skirts more often - and I enjoy doing so!
During this challenge, I've noticed a number of things. When I wear a skirt, I'm treated differently by guys. I'm treated with more respect, and sometimes with more distance (which is fine with me!). Wearing a skirt also affects me: I walk more carefully, feel more feminine and free. At first, it was a little hard for me because I felt self-conscious (especially at my college class). But it was good for me to think about dressing for God, not for others.
I've realized that dressing femininely is beautiful, just as much as dressing modestly is. Even though I will continue to wear jeans, I plan on wearing skirts more frequently. And, as a young woman seeking after God's heart, I want my outward appearance to reflect my status as God's daughter. Because that's what true modesty and femininity is all about.